Thursday, 8 March 2018

Happy womens day everyone.

March 08, 2018 Posted by family254 No comments

This is always an important day for all women in the world. I too would feel appreciated when i get to have a day set aside just to celebrate me. If you haven't noticed this day is always on the eighth day of March, many refer this day as International Women’s Day (IWD).

Most people acknowledge this day significantly to empower women, so that they can see in one way or the other that they are acknowledged and appreciated by people around them.This could also be the perfect day to wish that special woman in anyone’s life. Wife or girlfriend, mother or sister, teacher or friend, bosses and significant women in our countries.

Sometimes this significant days are set aside to remind us to appreciate people in our lives. If you look at social media now, these platforms are really exploring with quotes and sms to those women they are recognizing. Sometimes those sweet words help us open our eye.

But you don't have to wait for this day to celebrate this day. Show this significant people appreciation in one way or the other. Like the significant women in our countries let us acknowledge them by adding their doing in history. To remind our kids of their importance whether they are alive or dead. Apart from that we don't have to wait to be appreciated for who we are to see we are doing good. Just do good.

So this day ask yourself the following 10 questions as a woman;

1. Are you making your everyday the 8th March day?

2. Are you happy?

3. Do you do good everyday?

4.Are you responsible?

5.Who runs your word?

6. Have you forgiven you?

7. Can you do it?
8. How do you weigh your standards?

9.Which woman have you supported in your life?

10. Do you have time for you?

Anyway Happy women's day my lovelies. Remember 
“A lady's imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” ― Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

Sunday, 25 February 2018

Turning 30 "Happy birthday to me!"

February 25, 2018 Posted by family254 2 comments

Its my birthday! Its my birthday!

 In the next 24 hours I want to celebrate me, but am not sure how to am gonna do that. Anyway i consider myself lucky since I am still alive and me being here is a definite sign that God is giving me this chance to amend 20s life and make a difference in my 30s.
It's my first time being 30 and it feels normal. Yeah! it's my first time. I must say this because some of us have been the same age year in year out. We fear admitting that we are ageing. I remember hitting 25 and I was having a panic attack, since i could see for a fact that am really ageing and yet I haven't attained any achievements and worse of all I haven't attained any goals. 

But You know what? Am going to embrace my 30 with zeal and hope to enlighten my self with more life experiences. I mean it's pointless to blame and feel sorry for myself since i don’t have or i have not attained all the goal i had in mind and worse if all i have nothing on my to show as my accomplished by this age. The fact is i can’t change the hands of time. But what makes me focus ahead was having the positive thoughts and just the idea and thought that i am 30 makes me feel like the name big sister, mum and wife suits me better.
Today as I write this it 25th of February 2018, just few hours before i hit the bit big 30, but I want to tell my 30 self to;
  • Always embracing life with Optimism and hope to makes the impossible possible.
  • Never to doubt my capabilities and abilities.
  • Make an outstanding story out of my life and make a difference to other people's life. Hee! am not sure what am talking about but i look forward to accomplishing this. I mean i have a whole decade before i hit 40.
  • Take one step at a time.
  • let my self out there and face my fears- My biggest fear has always been being judged but lately i have a confidence that has totally surpassed my fears.  
Turning 30 to most of us could feel so scary. Especially if in your 20 you had the fears of hitting 30, which is always our limit age when it attaining our dream position in life, career wise, personal life and other stages in life. And yet we have not accomplished any of our goals and any achievements as we expected. From having kids, to having a great dream job, not forgetting the big dream being to get married or marrying.

Just like many of us i never imagined hitting 30, I saw it from a far and though I have a long way to go. And whenever I heard someone say he or she was 30 I would be like it so unfortunate they are already there, but now i dare to say that I think I’m actually happier, hopeful, i have become a great believer of life, and the thought that I can making my own decisions summarises the fact that I have indeed grown up. My positive vibe comes from my family and friends. That i have to say. 
Reasons why we are all scared of hitting 30 is because;

  • The idea of being referred and categorised among the old scares us. No one wants to be called old. Even if you know for real you are.
  • Fear that time is running out and you haven’t achieved anything. Especially us ladies menopause comes knocking before we know it.
  • As you are growing old you are less likely to get a job. Since most jobs consider certain age brackets. It will be so unfortunate if the jobs you are applying quotes an age bellow 30 as one of the qualification.

Anyway enough of the reality, we are already 30. As for me i have thought of ways i am going to make my 30s fun. Off-cause am going to;

  • Think about my accomplishments-
    achievements in my twenties gives me confidence that am going to so better in my 30s.
  • Embrace my failures-
    Accepting that am already 30 and yet I have not attained anything is the only way I will move on and accomplish more without feeling disappointed.
  • Accepting that am not perfect-
    no more pressure to attain my unattainable goals. My idea is to take everything slow. 
  • No more comparisons-  Comparison has always been the killer of my dreams. Why compare myself with friends and colleagues. making talent, dreams, ideas and career better is what should be in my mind. Have you ever heard of a saying that goes “Every flower blooms at a different pace.” Yah I always remember that.
  • Invest in my passion-
    I love blogging but its only until recent that I got balance and started blogging for real. I started blogging in 2016 but closed the site because i did have ideas as to how am going to make it work. But last year I got so into it and here I am.
  • Throw yourself a fantastic party- this coming decade is going to be a long journey so ushering it with great happiness is my goal. Like throwing myself a fabulous party. This is going to be a good start and it's going to be positive way and a way to help me remember all of the wonderful things that may have already happen or are going to happen in the next decade.
  • Look good and boost my confidence-
     good looks, the good experience you have attained in your work place and life gives you the confidence to face anything. Let us say you bought the one pair of shoes you have always eyed for along time. Once you buy and put it on you get the confidence to walk anywhere. This definitely reflects in our life. Take time to appreciate where are and give yourself time to jump start yourself again.
  • make plans-
     Coming to a point of me making plans is a great sign that i have definitely grown. In my 20s my idea was to explore life as it comes. I want to set goals, have targets, budget and tackle my priorities first. My goal is to face my 30s with a great level of maturity You know i want to make my dairy that i have always thought "What am i going to use it for?"
  • Grow career wise and appreciate its givings-
    i have always dreamt of getting a good, stable, paying job. At this state i can confidently say am financially stable and my living standard is at a point i have always dreamt of. This year i want to reward myself in a big way, i don't know how yet but i intend to.
  • Eat healthy-
    in my 20s i remember the least weight i was at was 55, that is when i just hit 20. Wau!! i remember vividly when i weighted myself, but it was expected since i was into sports. As much as i am making plans to do this and that i really need to take care of my health. Am thinking of eating healthy, as for exercising i would rather not have so much confidence in since am so sure without plan i would quite. But i am keeping the idea open and gradually hope to adopt it. But eating healthy is what i want to do.  
  • Test things for myself-
     someone once said being scared is a definite sign that you are doing what you should be doing. I have always hard the desire to try new ideas, but along the way i end up giving up, but what will i loose if try. I have come to realize finding a sweet spot will make your desires easy to fulfill. Am i making sense.
  • Lastly i want to have a close personal relationship with my God-
    without the almighty God i would definitely not be here. His grace is sufficient enough that all i can say is "Thank you Lord." 
So tell me how was your birthday or what plans do have for your birthday? As for me am all about adulting now and making more for my self. Happy birthday to my fellow birthday mate and those who we share the same birthday month. 

Friday, 23 February 2018

Void relationships.

February 23, 2018 Posted by family254 No comments

The 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and part of the 70s parents need to give the 80s and 90s babies lessons on marriage. From Christine, to civil, customary, Muslim and Hindu marriage, because they are using a totally different book. Most of the 80s and 90s babies are scared to partake this legal steps needed by them to finalize the marriage steps. They base their defense on the rituals needed to be followed for marriage to be complete to be very expensive and they have no knowledge about them. For example;
  • Introduction of the two parties to their families- Knowing each other’s back ground is very important, for example find out if he or she has siblings or parents. But you have to remember first reception defines you. Dress well and humbling yourself is very important. Also most people fear being judged so they would rather wait till they make some good cash before they go introduce their partners. But remember time is running out. Before you know it you will be parents. In my opinion the idea of you just going to each other’s home speaks out. Most of our parents went through the full ritual before he or she is allowed to stay with his or her partner. I know this is the 21 century but we need to do things the right way. Culture defines us.
  • Paying dowry- cultures are different when it comes to dowry, seeking advice on it is very essential. Most people are intermarrying. For example in Kenya we have 42 tribes and each one of them is defined by its culture, especially the ones affecting marriages do stand out a lot. Few of the 80s and 90s babies are aware of some of the sensitive cultures in their tribes, am I Wrong? How will they learn if it’s not from their parents?
  • The biggest and the most scary part being weddings. I mean come on let us forget the idea of a big perfect wedding. The 80s and 90s babies are of that idea, you know, having an outstanding wedding. Coming to appoint of it being a completion, but if you can afford it’s okay, if not why not go to the Attorney General. As you can see it’s not that expensive from this.

  • Lastly the idea of marriage just scares them. Others than the fear of being monogamous. Most of them get into it and whenever they cannot withstand the pressure they tend to give up leaving their partners with the whole responsibilities. This is because the boys haven’t learnt to be good responsible husbands and same to girls.
Parents better step in before it’s too late. Sometimes good husbands and wife's are built from learning. For those who are lucky to have parents am sure they have a hand full of good ideas when it comes to marriage since they have observed their parents. 

How did you the 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s do it? I mean most of you got married and married early but still made it work. Statistics show they are the only ones who have managed to keep their marriages long to as long as 30- 40 years. Wau! That is a long time. Moreover husbands got a chance marry more than one wife and wives hard many children.

Most of the 80s and 90s babies are in void relationships thinking and forcing it to fit in marriage category. Giving birth and committing to a relationship that has no base. Let us think this through i mean;
  •  Introducing your partner to your parents does not cut it. 
  • Giving him or her an engagement ring does not guarantee your relationship to be marriage.
  • Having a child or children does not count it at all.

Paying part of the dowry does not make it legal either.

We need to undergo the full and complete rituals for it to be valid and earn the name marriage. The reason why this topic is bugging me is because issues are coming up among the youth and they have no idea how they are supposed to handle it. African countries, for example Kenya having different tribes, hence most parties intermarry forcing them to share and learn each other’s cultures.

Most of them assume. So the problem comes when something happens to either of them, yet they are staying together as married couples. In Africa most women follow their men's cultures since she is married there. Let us open our eyes and see where the problems could come. The other day a young man lost his girlfriend, they had gone so deep into their relationship, so trouble emerged because the guy had only visited the ladies family nothing hard been done counting it to be apart of marriage stages. Know tell me who will claim this lady and bury her. Or the other way round when the man dies leaving his girlfriend with children. Everyone will have an opinion according to his or her culture.

All I am saying to the 80s and 90s babies’ marriage is bigger than what they think it is. Let us learn our cultures and teach our children the importance of identity. Identity is very important remember that. Let us give our parents and children a break and save ourselves some embarrassments that without doubt can be avoided.

Thursday, 15 February 2018

These Couples are making headlines after Valentine's day in 254.

February 15, 2018 Posted by family254 No comments
1. Fridah and Mike.

If you borrowed a loan worth 2.8 million Kenya shilling what will do with it? Keeping in mind you are not borrowing from the bank or Sacco but your dad. Ladies check out what one of you went ahead and did for her man on this special day. 

Fridah who is 20 years old brought business at a standstill in the CBD when she surprised her boyfriend Mike,who is 25 years with 2.8 Mercedes C-class.

2.Bahati and Diana Marua.

Besides celebrations valentines day with his beautiful wife and daughter, Bahati was over joyed to welcome another member in the family, another daughter naming her Heaven. 

3.Erick Omondi and Shantel Grazioli.

 Prestige world motors  was smiled all the way to the bank on Valentines day when famous Erick Omondi went to buy his girlfriend Shantel a valentines gift. It definitely had to make headline for a car this type.

Tuesday, 13 February 2018

Happy Valentine's- A Valentine's letter

February 13, 2018 Posted by family254 No comments
My Darling L.A(My Apple),

Am sure many people will see this to be weird and old fashion, but I don’t mind. You deserve every word in this letter my Apple. I hope you don't mind my style too. I just want to express myself differently. Am not that romantic, but you know i can deeply express myself through words. When happy, sad and angry. So today am just happy and overwhelmed with joy.  

Anyway, today being a valentine’s day, I just wanted to take this moment to tell you Mr. L.A(my Apple) that I love you so much. You deserve to be treasured and appreciated for being the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful hubby any woman could ask for, and believe me, I do treasure you. I hope we will celebrate these valentines together each year for the rest of our lives. This is no more a dream, because you are in my life, and I want to do everything so you can feel reciprocated for everything bit of love you give me.

You have taught me so much;
·        Patience.
·        How to be a better mother, wife and a companion when need be.
·        Having faith in times I feel like everything has fallen apart and
·        Most of all I have come to know what true love is through you.

I never knew love could be this deep till I met you. You are one person who loves deeply and feels disappointed when not reciprocated. I sometimes say you give too much love, but I always tell myself that I'm the luckiest woman in the world because I can truly say that I got the most loving person in the entire world.

I will always cherish every moment we spend together, and love you even more in moments when we are apart. Funny enough since I met I see reminders of you everywhere I look, and they make feel both anxious when am away from you and excited whenever am going to see you.

I also love your optimistic nature. You always try to see the good in every situation, even when I can't see it myself. You make me have another better picture of it and everything becomes better. Most importantly, I love the way you complete me, I sometimes make decisions and I always find your opinion added to it becoming perfect. You are the soul mate I thought I'd never find. You lift my spirit when I'm down and help me find peace when I feel like everything is out of control.

We have been together my love for along time and my love for you has grown deeper, richer, and more satisfying. Most of all every moment feels like yesterday. You have become my best friend, confidant and strength.

Always remember love whenever I overreact it’s not like I do it on purpose, sometimes I just want you to listen and then hold me to help me calm down even if am shouting on top of my voice. The truth is, I can't picture my life without you. Please forgive me in advance whenever I make you mad or disappoint you.

And lastly for a long time I have been thinking what to do for you this valentines. Not necessarily basing on material things, but something that i you will not see it coming. Which is this,writing it all down so you can know how i feel about you and also so you can read it whenever you feel the need to.

Happy valentines Mr.L.A(Apple)

With love,



Monday, 5 February 2018


February 05, 2018 Posted by family254 No comments
 I remember from my last blog Horoscope basically just opened my eyes on my health; i promised to give you updates on;
  • My fitness and health journey. 
  • Confirm if and when am going to start on my fitness classes.
  • My detox plan.
  • Lastly how my meals prep is going to be. 

Am all psyched up, hoping not to ever give up. Have you ever hard that weird feeling like everything relating to your misery is suddenly showing up in everything. It's like a constant reminder. Like whenever i walk i see bill boards adverts on fitness.Oh i also remember an email i received on health and another fitness training, it was totally random. Check them out.

Not forgetting the horoscope I showed you on my last blog. Is it because am thinking to much about it or is it a warning. Karma works in weird ways for sure.

Anyway I want to give you updates on the issues to consider and things that i have to do before starting my fitness or health journey;

  1. Weigh my self- Yeah weigh myself, i don't want to guess because i really don't know. The last time i weighed i was..... I can't quit remember but i have definitely added some weight. Mmmm but not really just some, i must admit i have added a lot of it. I can feel it. 
  2. Check my pressure-If i may ask which is the standard reading for normal healthy person. I have never known. I guess we shall see.
  3. Lastly go to the doctor and confirm if the contraceptive am using is the cause of my health problem. People have different opinions when it comes to contraceptives.Which contraceptives are you using? I really wish to know your opinions on each  and every method. I don't really know if am just paranoid or maybe it's because it's my first time using the one i have now.
  4. Look for a gym and a trainer-Though enrolling to a gym is quit expensive in Kenya not forgetting having a trainer is another expense. But i would definitely advice someone to enroll for full package which involves having a trainer, to get directions on everything. If i had all the equipment available in my house i would definitely not need to go to the gym. But remember one wrong move while exercising would definitely cost your. 
  5. Visit different gyms and compare there charges. Don't assume, you never know, maybe there is gym next door which is cheap and has a complete package. Learn to also cut on cost and do things in your budget.
  6. Go get some fresh healthy fruits and herbs to make some detox concoctions e.g ginger, lemon. Fresh vegetable and fruits are quit good for our health. You can prep some fruits package them in a zipper bags and store in a freezer making it easy for pick and go or have it as fruit salad or even make smoothies. Whichever suits you.
  7. Look for comfortable gym clothing and some nice kicks- I love me some nice attire, two- three pairs are okay. Nice sports bras, Tank tops, socks and leggings. You need to look presentable and comfortable when training. They don't need to be new, go for second hand clothing ( mitumba in Swahili) they are quit affordable. 
  8. Later after attaining my goals i would wish to shop for gym equipment and continue training from home. If you thinking you have already attained your ideal weight and your life will go on fine, then my friend you definitely wrong. Adopt the fitness habit. Continuous exercise after the training is very crucial. With that you will be sure not to fall back your previous weight which was a source of all your problems. Look for some affordable gym equipment, then spare a room or a space for it and continue with your workouts every morning and evening, whichever is suitable for you.

  9. Look for a training partner and get moral support to not give up. Getting a training partner motivates you. But keep in mind choosing a partner who is the same size as you or just almost. As for me am a size 14. So for me i would not go train with a size 10 partner. I prefer a partner whose experiences are almost the same as mine, weight-wise and health-wise, i mean you having common issues and aiming to attain the same goals. 
  10. Prepare a schedule to help me train efficiently-Most of us work best with schedules and a strict instructor. Some of us would go to the gym day one, two, three then miss for the next two days. But if you have a schedule you definitely don't have an excuse. I have never enrolled in a gym because i have never hard weight issues before, so i wouldn't not judge.

Am crossing my fingers and hope to attain my goal before April this year 2018. My ideal weight being 60-65 kilograms.